Patterns are repetitive behaviors or arguments that are difficult to break. Patterns are dysfunctional if they impede or frustrate people in improving reliability. If, despite good intentions and solemn promises, they turn up again. It becomes even more difficult when patterns are no longer recognized as such and people tell each other that ‘it just goes like this’. That is death in the pot.

At the same time, it glows enormously when patterns appear on the table. If there can be talk of fixed beliefs and unwritten rules. The patterns have not simply disappeared, but there is much more room to prepare yourself for the familiar ritual and to say to each other ‘there he goes again’. Below are different methods to face patterns and to break through where necessary.